Fun Girl

March 09, 2017 The Solo Alliance 0 Comments

A conversation with my friend goes like this.

Me: I am not understanding why he doesn't think I don't know there is something odd going on here
Friend: Do you think he has someone else
Me: Yes, I have been here before, I mean, he goes super hard to make sure I notice him and then it gets weird, like texts during certain times of the day and the disappearing acts. I am just trying to understand, why I keep getting guys that already have a woman at home, but then they are trying to talk to me.
Friend: Because you are a "fun girl."  Not that I think that is the case, but men see single, independent, educated, attractive and no children and the a**holes gravitate towards wanting that fun life.

While I am not spotted showing my body parts, she classified me as a fun girl. She explained that she has another classification for "fun girls". There are the fun girls that aren't really looking for sponsors or attention.  They are the single ladies that "appear" to have things together, do what they want and come and go as they please.  Unavailable men may attract to these women because they feel there is a part of life they are missing or they aren't going to be expecting much from the relationship.  However, are you really missing out or you are trying to have it all plus some? These unavailable men find out that it is not that these "fun girls" aren't expecting much, but they have the ability to get what they need independently.

 I just had to know more, so I continued our conversation.
"Are you saying that I am attractive to guys whom only want to have a fun time, and what am I doing that is attracting these types of men?" As she explained, it is not that you are only attractive to these type of men, but I know you and you tend to be very upfront about expectations. You appreciate communication and you can see many sides.  So you will give these men the opportunity to give you the "spill" on wanting to just have a friend or "friend with benefits" and then you weigh the pros and cons.

I didn't think she was saying I was easy or too independent, but I came up with my own understanding.  Check it...  So I expect you to give it to me straight, no chaser. If you are looking to date me, then you are going to be expected to date me, if you are looking for a friends with benefits type of situation, then I will choose whether you will be able to get that option.  The only thing with that option is that I have officially put myself into the "fun girl" category with you.  I say that I am laid-back and that I will be when you are honest with me.  I am at a point where I am not looking for the games and the subterfuge of trying to figure out the relationship ins- and- outs.  This may come across as hypocritical, but it is not. A girl has the right to change her mind, right?! Currently, I am dating and living a happily single life. Fortunately, society has allowed this to happen in our 30s, although my family is still seeing this as taboo in my 30s.

My question then becomes, with me wanting to date as a single women, am I putting myself out there to be classified as the "fun girl?" I mean I am not quite looking for a relationship, but I am not looking to date someone else's man either.  Sound off in the comments below and let me know how you feel about the "fun girl", or how you classify the "fun girl?" Lets chat about if you have ever been considered the "fun girl", or if you have some advice (good or bad) about the fun girl.  Let's keep it cute though, we can always agree to disagree, respectfully.  Thanks for visiting The Solo Alliance. **Smooches**

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